I’ve had a stalker for a couple of months. Sad thing is, he’s not the first one I’ve had. I’m going to address a couple of things here.
1. I work in empowerment as a Therapist. I tell you this so you know what my paradigm is. When I called the Police to report this it was all about hiding, changing my number, moving, etc. I told them NO. This isn’t up to ME to change MY behaviour – it’s for him to STOP his behaviour. I was shocked, disappointed and then resolute in my resolve to be an example thru this.
Was I being foolish? No. He doesn’t know where I live, doesn’t have my address – just my phone number. I am all over the net so no, I’m not changing my number. It’s my business.
I talked to many others who’ve had this. (Sad to say it’s becoming common). There were lots that they shared but not much was helpful. I want to empower myself – not shrink back in fear.
I came up with my own plan. It was about a week+ ago. Suddenly his calling stopped. At least for now. I am hoping he’s given up. Time will tell
2. What’s in it for the stalker? I’ve been pondering this to find my approach to it. It’s similar to rape – it’s about misplaced feelings of power. Power over another human. It’s the idea of getting away with something. Sadly you can see what kind of people do these things. It also tells you about things like: their wrong views about women, what kind of poor values they have, desperation, their own feelings of powerlessness and lack of control. In total, it shows a persons lack of mental stability and emptiness.
While I can understand, empathize and feel sorry for him, at no time will I excuse this behaviour. You do NOT get to threaten another persons feeling of safety, disregard their need for personal security or their wellbeing. EVERY person has the right to these basic human needs.
I am Grateful to him. He helped me to process this and to come up with a plan. It wasn’t for or about him. That’s why I think he disappeared. It was about me coming up with what’s needed for women/these situations. I am Grateful because I intend to develop something for this
I am Grateful for being the prototype lol